How to recognize "red-flags" in a relationship with a narcissist?


Recognizing the so-called "red flags" in a relationship can sometimes be difficult, especially if you are in the phase of the relationship where you are trying to invest in it emotionally. This does not have to happen only at the beginning of the relationship, but also later.

Below are some signs to look out for that may indicate potential problems:

  • Disrespectful behaviour: If your partner constantly ignores your feelings, belittles you, or speaks condescendingly to you, this can be a sign of disrespect and a warning sign.
  • Controlling behaviour: If your partner tries to control what you wear, who you see, or what you do, this can be a sign of unhealthy and potentially abusive behaviour.
  • Lack of communication: If your partner constantly ends conversations, avoids discussing important issues, or refuses to listen to your concerns, this could be a sign of communication breakdown in the relationship.
  • Lack of trust: If your partner is jealous or possessive, accuses you of cheating or lying without any evidence, or constantly checks you, this could be a sign of a lack of trust in the relationship.
  • Ignoring boundaries: If your partner constantly crosses your boundaries or makes you feel uncomfortable, this can be a sign of ignoring your needs and a warning sign.

It's important to trust your instincts and pay attention to any red flags that come up in your relationship. If you feel uneasy or unsure about how your partner is treating you, it can be helpful to seek support from a therapist or trusted friend to help you navigate the situation.

And how do you know you're living with a narcissist?

You may be living with a narcissistic person if they exhibit a consistent pattern of behaviour that is consistent with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). Here are some signs to look out for:

  1. Grandiose sense of self-importance: A narcissistic person may exaggerate his/her achievements, talents, or abilities and expect to be recognized as superior without any real evidence to support her/his claims.
  2. Lack of Empathy: A narcissistic person may have trouble understanding or caring about the feelings or needs of others and may even exploit them for their own benefit.
  3. Need for Admiration: A narcissistic person may constantly seek attention, praise, or admiration from others and become upset or angry if they feel they are not being recognized enough.
  4. Entitled or superior behaviour: A narcissistic person may expect special treatment or privileges and may become angry or resentful if they do not get what they feel they deserve.
  5. Arrogant or condescending demeanour: A narcissistic person may appear condescending or dismissive of others and may think they are breaking the rules or expectations that apply to everyone else.

If you suspect you are living with a narcissistic person, it may be helpful to seek support from a therapist or mental health professional who can help you understand the situation and develop healthy coping strategies.

PhDr. Ivana Čergeťová, PhD., LL.M., MBA, PCIC

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