How to Stop the Path to the Demise of Our Relationship?


We've already talked about four types of destructive behavior (criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling) that create an apocalyptic scenario in relationships. To identify these destructive forms, it's best to focus on 5 areas, and today we'll take a closer look at them.

Observing Communication Patterns 

The first step is to start observing your own communication patterns, especially during conflicts. Pay attention to the words and tone you use. For example, recognize the difference between accusatory statements and expressions of personal feelings.


Next is the importance of self-reflection. Strive to understand your own emotions and reactions during conflicts. It's important to recognize whether your reactions contribute to a harmonious solution or provoke further conflict. Learn to describe and understand your own emotional states.

Empathetic Listening 

In empathetic listening, focus on fully perceiving what your partner is saying, without interruption and with full attention. Validate your partner's feelings and try to understand his or her perspective. This includes active listening and a response that shows understanding and empathy.

Identifying Destructive Patterns in Couple Dynamics 

Once you can recognize your own patterns and actively focus on your partner, it's time to move on to identifying these patterns in the relationship dyad. Try to understand how these patterns affect your relationship and how you react to each other.

Professional Help 

If you can't deal with these problems on your own, don't hesitate to seek professional help. A therapist or relationship counselor can help you identify and address these issues, thereby improving your relationship.

Your relationship deserves your attention and work. Seeking and working with these patterns can help you achieve a healthier and happier relationship. For more information and details, read my blog at this page and watch my videos on YouTube. Remember, investing in the health of your relationship is one of the best investments you can make.

PhDr. Ivana Čergeťová, PhD., LL.M., MBA, PCIC

I am a psychologist, NLP coach, attachment-based therapist, career counselor, and academic staff. I have been dedicated to the attachment theory in personal and work settings for over 20 years. I work on this topic not only as a counselor but also as a researcher. Meeting with me can help you if you are seeking an expert in mental health specializing in relationships, communication, and personal development. For more information, follow my social networks @radipsychologicka #attachment #relationships #love #attachment #JoinMeForAdvice #relationshiptherapist #development