SUPERNOVA | Self-love and self-worth

An individual psychological programme focused on self-love and self-worth. Ten 1:1 sessions intended for people who feel drained from constantly giving more than they receive, who tend to dismiss their own needs, or who have been through a life change in which their existing way of functioning fell apart.

You say yes. Even with your whole body saying no. And then you spend three days explaining and convincing yourself why that was fine.

This is for you if:

• you've been giving more than you get for a long time — and even the explaining has started to wear you out
• your needs come last, and sometimes not at all
• you've been through a change (a break-up, redundancy, children leaving home) and you don't know who you are when you're not the one holding it together

Where you'll get to: You say no — and you don't watch to see whether the other person's face changed. You take a compliment without immediately talking it down. You decide based on what you want, not on how it will look.

What we do: We take apart the beliefs that keep your value low — where they came from, whose they actually are, and what they cost you now. We look at the inner critic: whose voice that is, when it speaks up, what it thinks it's guarding. And you'll practise standing up for yourself even when it's uncomfortable — not in theory, but in the specific situations actually waiting for you.

We're not working on making you like yourself on command. We're working on getting you to stop needing proof that your value is there.

How you'll know it worked:

• You turn down a request and you don't go back over it in your head all evening.
• You say what you actually think in a conversation — even when it isn't the popular answer.
• You catch yourself asking "do I want this?" before "should I do this?"

Why SUPERNOVA: In astrophysics, a supernova is the moment a star collapses — and it's in that collapse that its brightest light is born. That's exactly what happens when an old survival strategy falls apart before a new one has had time to form. The metaphor is from astrophysics; the method is CBT and NLP.

MAGNETIC LOOP | Peace and regulation of the mind

An individual programme focused on calming the mind and regulating the nervous system. Ten 1:1 online sessions for people whose mind is hard to switch off, who experience inner restlessness with no obvious cause, or whose body reacts to stress before they have a chance to register it.

It's half past eleven. You're lying there. Your body gave up hours ago and your head is still going.

This is for you if:

• your mind is hard to switch off — especially in the evening, and especially when there's no reason for it
• you carry a restlessness you can't attach to anything
• your body reacts before you register that anything is happening — tight stomach, shallow breath, locked shoulders

Where you'll get to: You catch tension the moment it's starting — not once your jaw aches. You fall asleep without an hour of replaying the day. A strong emotion arrives, passes through the body and leaves, instead of staying lodged in you.

What we do: We work with breath, micro-movement, attention and polyvagal principles. First you learn to recognise your own signals of over-activation — everyone's are different, and most people walk past theirs for years. Then you try out concrete ways of easing yourself back into safety. And finally you make them automatic, so they work even when you have neither the time nor the calm for them.

This isn't about feeling less. It's about what you feel having somewhere to go.

How you'll know it worked:

• You notice tension in your shoulders, not in a migraine.
• You have two or three things that genuinely help in an acute moment — and you know which one goes where.
• After a hard day you come back to calm within hours, not days.

Why MAGNETIC LOOP: In astrophysics, a magnetic loop is a phenomenon in which the energy of the solar atmosphere, instead of erupting chaotically, organises into a stable arc and flows along a predictable path. That's the principle of nervous system regulation — giving energy a structure it can flow through safely.

NEBULA FORMATION | Relationships and the fear of closeness

An individual programme focused on building solid relationships and managing insecurity within closeness. Ten 1:1 sessions for people who struggle to trust, who constantly check up on the other person in a new relationship, or for whom vulnerability is as appealing as it is frightening.

You want to be close. And at the same time it terrifies you. Both at once, every day.

This is for you if:

• you constantly check up on the other person in a new relationship — and you're ashamed of it
• trust doesn't come to you on its own; you have to derive it from evidence
• vulnerability draws you in exactly as strongly as it frightens you
• your relationships either burn out fast, or you keep them at a safe distance

Where you'll get to: You can tell when you're reacting to your partner and when you're reacting to an old wound. Instead of checking, you ask. You let someone leave the room without anything tightening in your chest.

What we do: We look at why trust is difficult for you — not in general, but in your particular case. We map what exactly gets activated in you at the moment of closeness, and where it came from. And we'll build an attachment bond that is secure without being controlling. I work with attachment theory and the approach of Una McCluskey — that is, with concrete mechanisms, not a lecture on attachment.

A secure relationship isn't one where you're never afraid. It's one where the fear can be said out loud.

How you'll know it worked:

• You admit uncertainty before you turn it into an accusation.
• You stop checking what you used to have to check.
• You can name what you need from closeness — specifically, not "more attention".

Why NEBULA FORMATION: In astrophysics, a nebula looks at first glance like chaos of gas and dust — and it's precisely there, through collisions and rearrangement, that new stars form. Secure relationships come about the same way: not through certainty from day one, but through a process in which uncertainty gradually organises into trust.

STELLAR ATMOSPHERE | Transforming thoughts

An individual programme focused on transforming thought patterns. Ten 1:1 sessions for people whose automatic thoughts and interpretations stop them from reacting the way they'd really want to, or who feel they're fighting the same mental loops over and over.

"I know that's not how it is." And two minutes later you believe it again.

This is for you if:

• you understand your thoughts and they still run you
• you react differently from how you'd want to — and you know it in the moment you're doing it
• you've been going back to the same mental loops for years
• you've read everything there was to read, and understanding on its own changed nothing

Where you'll get to: A space opens up between the trigger and the reaction, one in which a choice can be made. You recognise a thought as a thought, not as a fact. And you can go a layer deeper — to the belief generating it.

What we do: We work from the surface down. First the automatic thoughts and immediate interpretations — what happens in the first three seconds. Then the rules and conditions you run on ("if I do X, then Y happens"). And finally the schemas and core beliefs it all comes from. We work with cognitive-behavioural techniques and NLP work with beliefs.

The goal isn't one technique that "switches your thinking". The goal is that you can see the layers — and know which one you're standing on.

How you'll know it worked:

• You react differently in a familiar situation — and you only notice afterwards.
• You can name your core belief in one sentence.
• You catch an automatic thought and you have something to do with it.

Why STELLAR ATMOSPHERE: A star's atmosphere has several layers, and what we see as its light is only the outermost one. Thoughts work the same way: what you notice first is the surface. Underneath it lie the patterns producing it.

BLACK HOLE | Infidelity and rebuilding trust

An individual programme for people coming to terms with infidelity — either as those it happened to, or as those who caused it and want to understand why. Ten 1:1 sessions focused on processing the shock, shame, jealousy and loss of certainty that infidelity brings.

Suddenly nothing that held before holds now. Not even the past you thought you shared.

This is for you if:

• infidelity has happened to you and you don't know what you're still allowed to think about your own life
• or you're the one who caused it and you need to understand why — not just apologise
• you're living in an alternation of anger, shame, jealousy and numbness, with no idea what comes next
• you're deciding whether to carry on — and that decision can't be made in this state

Where you'll get to: Emotions stop arriving as unpredictable waves. You'll know what's happening in you and why. And you'll reach a state where a decision about the future can be made in calm rather than in panic — whatever that decision turns out to be.

What we do: Stabilisation first — shock and acute reaction need processing before they need analysis. Then we look at what exactly is happening emotionally and in the body: shame, jealousy, the loss of certainty, the intrusive images. And finally at what rebuilding trust actually requires, if that's what both parties want — or at what you need in order to move on alone. I work with psychological and somatic techniques for processing trauma and trust.

This isn't about forgiving quickly. It's about being able to answer the question "what now" — and to carry that answer.

How you'll know it worked:

• The intrusive images come less often and don't wreck your whole day.
• You can talk about what happened without getting lost in it.
• You're clear about what you need — and you can say it out loud.

A note on scope: Infidelity is an event with traumatic impact. If things are showing up in you that go beyond what a programme can hold — persistent insomnia, panic states, thoughts of harming yourself or someone else — we'll say so openly and find a more appropriate format. The advantage is that I have both therapy and programmes under one roof.

Why BLACK HOLE: In astrophysics, a black hole is a place where gravity swallows even light — it can't be observed directly, only through the way it distorts everything around it. Betrayal works exactly like that: it breaks the laws that applied until then.

SOUND WAVES | Harmony of body and mind

An individual programme focused on a deeper sense of inner harmony between body and mind. Ten 1:1 sessions for people who feel they're working against themselves, that the body reacts before the mind has processed the situation, or that a sense of alignment is missing without their being able to name why.

Your head says one thing, your body does another. And you're in the middle, pulling on both ends.

This is for you if:

• you feel you're working against yourself, and you can't put it more precisely than that
• your body reacts before your head has processed the whole situation
• a sense of alignment is missing — not dramatically, but genuinely
• you can get yourself calm, but it doesn't hold

Where you'll get to: You pick up subtle signals before they turn into symptoms. Decisions stop being a fight between what you feel and what you think. You get up in the morning without anything in you pushing the other way.

What we do: We work with what you normally walk past — the pace of your breath, where the tension sits, the vague restlessness that has no words. You'll learn to read these signals as information rather than as malfunction. And then we bring the physical and mental processes into alignment, so that what comes out of it is stability, not temporarily borrowed calm.

Inner harmony isn't a state without tension. It's a state where body and head are heading the same way.

How you'll know it worked:

• You can answer "what are you feeling right now?" without a long search.
• You make a decision and your body agrees — none of that familiar pressure in the chest.
• The calm you create holds after the session ends.

Why SOUND WAVES: In astrophysics, sound waves are pressure oscillations that pass through stars and reveal their internal structure — something invisible from the outside, yet decisive for how the star works. That is exactly the principle of inner harmony.